Progressive Parenting Nonsense
By James L. Casale
Did you ever wonder why this current generation is filled with so many “snowflakes”? These are the kids who were awarded a trophy even if they came in last. Generally speaking, our current young people can’t seem to cope with anything and our education institutions comply. When Hillary Rodham Clinton lost the 2016 election, the schools and colleges provided not only counseling but cry rooms. God help us.
What Constitutes Effective Parenting?
Parenting is a serious and sacred undertaking. It requires accurate knowledge, thoughtfulness, patience, prayer and practice. When I see or read about kids and young adults who “don’t have a clue” about what it means to be a grown up, my thoughts are laser focused on the parenting these kids received. But I also understand that kids, especially the older ones, make choices they often regret.
Here is a sample of the some of the progressive nonsense that passes for effective parenting as proposed by Ronica O’Hara, author of an article, Mindful Parenting, that appeared in Natural Awakenings Magazine. (Nov.2020):
“parents can only be effective by knowing themselves via therapy, reading, journaling, and meditation.
“discipline your child from a place of presence or awakened consciousness.”
She adds more poop from other like-minded authors but I will spare you their thoughts.
The Real World
It’s not totally progressive nonsense. If the reader digs deeper and reads between the lines while holding her nose, there are few nuggets to be found.
- If mindfulness means thinking clearly about your family mission statement that emphasizes character building and life-long learning, I’m all for it.
- If mindfulness means reflecting and self-assessing based on your family goals, I’m all for it.
- I always recommend journaling for parents. It assists in reflection and self-assessment.
- If meditation means prayers to God Almighty and the Saints, I’m all for it.
- Don’t stop reading and learning. Don’t confine yourself to parenting books.
- Connectedness: you must forge positive relationships with your children. This is crucial and demonstrates your leadership qualities. Read leadership books.
- Don’t give up, don’t give in, and don’t beat yourself up. Recognize and admit your mistakes, keep learning, then move on.
There is much more to the parenting journey than “mindfulness”. Parenting is not quantum physics, brain surgery, or completing a triathlon; it’s harder. Focus on common sense and accurate information. Stay in shape and eat healthy. Remain positive and joyful.
Books Worth Reading
- The 12 Rules of Life by Jordan Peterson.
- Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
- The Five Parenting Commandments by James L Casale
- Corps Values by Zell Miller
- Character Carved in Stone by Pat Williams
- The Seven Tipping Points that Saved the World by Chris and Ted Stewart.
- Wisdom of the Ages by Wayne Dyer
- Words That Hurt, Words That Heal by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin
- The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren
- Leadership as an Art by Max Dupree
Dr. Casale is a state and national award-winning educator, the author of three parenting books and numerous essays. In 1974 he was selected as the Florida Teacher of the Year, the first male teacher to receive this recognition. While serving as principal of Purchase School in Harrison, New York in 1988, his school was selected by the United States Department of Education as a National School of Excellence. He has two children and four grandchildren.
He is available as a speaker.